finding solace  / Tania Hofmeyr (myspace hopefull friend )

when : 31 July 2006 
Where : Sandton mediclinic
What : Connor Michael Lessing Munro
Time: 4:30 am

This is when my families life started falling apart Connor was a happy go luck healthy 20 month old boy loved by every one he knew or should i say knew him .

it was four thirty in the morning the precautionery  breath monitoring mattresses alarm went off NOT A GOOD SIGN ( Dedorah -my cousins wife  had a history odf breathing problem with her brother s so my cousin and her had test done during the pregnancy and all was perfect )
 

so at 4am my cousins John and Deborah bundled the son Connor and his big brother Christopher into the car and droved as fast as they safely could to the hospital when they got therer they were rold that there greatest  fear had happened Connor had died ....


at his memorial service a week later Deborah announced that she was happy to say but not happy to say that she was 4.5 weeks  pregnant this was the first time that they had notifoed us before having the tests done.
on the 22 february this year deborah gave birth to a beautiful Healthy little boy they had decided to name him Callum Connor 
he was a very calm baby at birth but is becoming more and more active as he grows


R.I.P Connor Michael Lessing Munro
 we MISS and LOVE you and will tell your baby brother all about what a happy beautiful boy you are to us 

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The Greatest Young Man  / Traci Newcomer (Friend)
Austin, you were so full of life. A wonderful, sensitive, caring young man. We have all been robbed of seeing what an outstanding man you would have become. Your mother raised you perfectly. You are a reflection of her...Denise, no words can ease your pain. My thoughts and prayers are always with you...Traci Newcomer Close

Live / Kim &. Jessica (Friend)
Austin we miss you too. I remember going to work and seeing you aound the the store with a football or a book. Jessica loved playing catch with him so much. Austin you were so sweet and always friendly. We miss your amazing smile!!. Denise we love you so very much and hope that you continue to LIVE...live life hour by hour then day by day. Please know there are holes in the floor of heaven and Austin's watching over you every night and day.

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A poem with love...  / Carole Mom To Angel ~Heather Bates

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Thinking of you and your family always..  / Carole Mom To Angel ~Heather Bates (angel friends )
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I miss you...  / Denise Gillentine-bruckner (austins Mom )
I hate that you are not here austin. Everywhere I go brings me stabbing pain. Everywhere I go you have been with me..I cant avoid it..I sleep for days to aviod the pain. I miss your smile. I miss your laugh. I miss you reading at night. I miss staying up late and watching movies. I miss playing orthelo and chess with you. I hate these long summer days that are a constant reminder of you being gone. No more staying out untill ten playing catch, football or riding our bikes all over town together.  Going to movies, chasing you through the corn rows. I hate this summer. I hate that you left me alone here to try to live without you..I hate living. I hate still being alive..I Hate it! Close

Be strong my Friend  / Alaina Short (mummy to angel Addison )


Dear Denise

I just wanted to write to let you know that our prayers and thoughts
are with you now... I too have lost a son and it is the biggest loss any person could ever have..  But as Cheryl wrote and did so beautifully be strong that is what our boys would want from us..

I have felt the pain of wanting to leave this earth and be with my boy .. but it would not be fair to his memory or the people you leave behind you are loved by many people .. I am sure you know that by the numerous tributes left on this site..

I just had my boy Addisons  3rd Anniversary and it was very tough .. but I have been having readings with a very special caring medium who has helped me get out from the black cloud that tries to consume me, and with his help my son has come through to me .. the joy that I have in knowing he is around me and his family has really helped my grief, may I take the opportunity to suggest that finding a good medium  could help in coming out the other side and it may give you some peace. 

I will continue to visit your sons site and light a candle for you and your beautiful boy.

Love and strength to you Denise you will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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Denise, My heart aches for you~  / Cheryl~Mom To Angel William Joe Day~
Dear Denise,

I am again so sorry for this tragic, tragic loss. I read what you wrote on Joe's site and I just have to say some things to you. If there is anything I can do to help you in any way, please just say it.

It has been 19 months since I lost Joe and I really do understand how you feel. I am sure it is very normal for what you are trying to get through. I have to tell you that for the longest time I was even suicidal and wouldn't tell anyone because I felt so ashamed. The pain is just so hard to bare at times.

But when and if you feel this way, please just wait a few minutes and then a few more if you must. Reach out to those who love and need you. Your son would want you to go on. Trust me when I say things do get a little easier to cope with. I can't say better but it is different with time. For me most of the time I feel like Joe is just away and pretend that he is coming back. Now that might seem strange, but it gets me through.

There are many support groups with parents who have lost children and I have found them to be very helpful. Unfortuneately we all have something in common but fortunately we really do understand how each other feels.

I belong to grieving mothers.com and here there are moms who are very loving and kind and really understand. It is not a big group so it is a little more personal. I invite you to take a look and see if it is something you might try. God, I am so sorry. This shouldn't have happened. I wish I could turn back the hands of time for you.

Remember One step at a time, One day at a time, and sometimes one breath at a time. You are not alone.

I am sending much love and many hugs to you and your family, and for this wonderful little guy who is now your angel watching over you.
God Bless You All and I pray that you find comfort at some point.
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YOUR A SUPERSTAR  / NOW SHINNING FROM THE HEAVENS
Go Austin Go you sure were awesome at football hope your playing alot in Heaven...RIP AUSTIN Close

RIP / AUSTIN
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thoughts.... / Carole Mom To Angel ~Heather Bates
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Sorry for your loss  / Tansy Flannery
When I  was younger we played a game on the play ground where we would hold each other til we passed out just like that I didnt know that you could die from it to this day I did know about the brain damage now...I dont know why it takes something like this to see what the children are doing right out of sight I am so sorry for you loss. I am hoping that your fight against this will save just one life. I am now a mother to five children and could not imagation losing one of them to a game that kids play like this I know that there are alot of games that are dangerous but I know that if they had the knowledge that this is the price that  could be paid that some of them would think twice.

I love the pictures of your son he was a very handsome boy and loss is never easy if you ever need some one to talk to me email is opened daily once again thank you for you help for other children and the fight, and may God be with you!! Tansy Close

This is just heart breaking!  / Teri Chandler
Your sad story about your son is just so heart breaking!  I am a grandmother of two 12 year old boys and I just can not imagine losing them in this, or any other way.  I also was a single mother having lost my husband to cancer when my 3 son's were very small.  I understand the special bond you had with your son being a single parent.  I just can't imagine the hole you must have in your heart and the longing to have Austin back with you-I am just so very, very sorry for all you are dealing with.  Thank you too for sharing with all of us information on this horrible 'choking game' that these kids get involved with.  We will never know why and never understand when we lose someone so dear in such a way.
If only we could take back time.....................but it just doesn't work like that.  Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers-continue to be strong and help other's by continueing to get this information out.  By doing so, the lose of your precious son Austin could also save the lives of many other's.  
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To Austin's Mom, family and friends  / Cheryl~Mom To Angel William Joe Day~ (Another grieving Mom )
I want to say that I am so very sorry for the loss of such a beautiful young man. A loss that is senseless and horrible. I will pass this word around with the site and hope to help people to become more aware.
I lost my 19 year old son, Joe, on November 18th, 2005 to suicide. Another senseless death that could have been prevented. Joe called a friend that night that he ended his life and the friend thought it was just another way for Joe to get attention. I am working on getting the word out on how to learn about suicide and prevention myself. 
I know the loss and pain of the loss of a special child and life will just never be the same. I will always remember you and your little guy and keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
When you have a moment, please light a candle for Joe. It has been 19 months and his site is getting lonely. People go on with thier lives and although I am glad, I never want him forgotten. You will see what a wonderful young man he was.
God Bless this family and I pray that in time things get a little easier. I am so sorry again.
With much love and many hugs.
Cheryl Day
cherlynn9582000@yahoo.com
http://williamjoedy.memory-of.com
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I am so sorry  / Melissa Felder
I am so sorry to hear about the lose of your son.  My heart goes out to you.  I wish I could say that the pain goes away, but for me it has always stayed.  I lost my 5yr. old son Benjamin Felder to cancer.  He loved football.  Lets both hope that they are up in heaven playing football together.  Again, I am sorry and I will say a prayer for your son tonight.  Close

My Deepest Sympathies and Condolances  / John Plourde (Bereaved Father )
(((Denise))),
I am SO SORRY to read of your beloved young, handsome and wonderful son, Austin Cole’s horrible, tragic accident and his death. I have read so much about that HORRIBLE “choking game”…my deepest condolences to you. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you travel along this horrible journey. The death of a child is the most devastating event of a parent’s life. The road of grief is a LONG and DIFFICULT journey; you may need to live “one breath at a time”.
My wife Bernice and I are the parents of a beautiful, loving, heavenly Angel Danielle Marie. On February 20th, 2006 at 11 years 1 month and 17 days old, our beautiful, precious and life-loving, young daughter, Danielle Marie died at 10:59am in an automobile collision in Sturbridge, MA. She died of a massive traumatic head injury and was pronounced dead at the scene.
Take Care & may God give you & your loving family the strength and courage to guide you all along this terrible journey. Please contact me if you EVER need another parent who feels your pain to cry with, talk to or simply to listen and UNDERSTAND!

Wishing You Comfort & Peace,
John-Danielle Marie’s Daddy
1/4/95-2/20/06 (head trauma-motor vehicle accident)
http://danielle-marie-plourde.memory-of.com/
In Loving Memory Of Danielle-Marie
“Her friendship was an inspiration, her love a blessing”
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This is definitely one of the most saddest stories  / Vanessa Small (Nil)
This is  definitely one of the most saddest stories..I hae ever read..as a Nurse and a photojournalist....I come into contact with lots of children. I never knew of this very dangerous game..I am sorry you lost your beautiful child..Thank oyu for sharing him and his memories with the world..
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Austin Babydoll.  / Ashlee Martin (Friend)

This kid was one of the silliest and most intresting kids i have ever met in my life. He could always have you smiling. He was very talented. And, i miss him. Austin, you were the best!!!!..

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I love you Austin and Denise!  / Shawn Perry (First girlfriend and best friend since 5! )

Although Austin isnt here I pray that the lord could bring him back home were everyone loves him and cares for him, were Denise Bruckner could love, protect,shelter, and care for him! I wish this could have never happened so that everyone was happy and joyful to see him each and every day! But most of all i wish i could go back to those days were i would stay over night at his house and we would lay on the living room floor and watch movies all night and wake up in the morning and go to water works and get sun burned but still have a huge smile on our face when denise picked us up and we would drive down town while Denise sang to one of her favorite songs "if i were invisible" by Clay Aiken. I wish i could do it all over again! Austin please know to wait for us and we will meet u at heavens gates and hugg each other so tight to were not even an earth-quake could bring us apart! I love you Austin Cole and always will!
~Shawn

I wish only the best in life for Denise and hope she knows that there are more then plenty of houses open to her including mine! Shes a WONDERFUL person who is always there for you and now she needs us there for her! The love her and austin shared was unbelievable and i wish this would have never happend! I love you Denise!
~Shawn

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My thoughts and prayers are with you!  / Lisa Wince
I am very sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I know the pain you are going through. We lost our son, Cayden Wince on January 31, 2007 to the choking game. We had never heard of it and were home when our accident happened. My husband and I found him, and we tried with everything we had to save him, but it was too late. The EMS tried for an hour after they relieved us, but we had already lost him. It has been the most horrific experience that we will ever face in our lifetime. If you would ever like to talk or email each other, I would love to hear from you.

We have a memorial site for Cayden as well,
 caydenwince.memory-of.com

My thoughts and prayers are with you. God Bless your entire family.
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